Do i need to be a sub first, to be a better dominant?
anyhow, i agree at one point that, if u are talking about being a sadist, you should know how every thing that you’d use would feel to a sub. But that need not be how a submissive feels. I mean, it can be an absolute clinical way of finding out how a particular toy would ‘physically’ feel. That should be a responsibility as a dominant, so that he/she can gauge the toy’s effect better and use it to get the maximum advantage.
But psychologically, as we say, being dominant and/or submissive is absolute about heart and mind, and physical sensations add to make it more intense. So, logically, if i am a dominant, i would take the pain if i have to be a submissive, just to realise the physical effects.
but it would do nothing to make me ‘feel’ like a submissive, because the inherent emotion of a submissiveness wouldn’t be there inside.
Thus, on those lines particularly, It would not really help me to be a better dominant