Thousands of events are being held around the world to celebrate International Women’s Day, an idea that was launched 100 years ago when a group of women from seventeen countries gathered in Copenhagen, Denmark to champion the rights of women. Activists across the globe are drawing attention to a variety of concerns, including discriminatory laws, the high rate of pregnancy-related deaths in many parts of the world, the skewed sex ratio in China and India, the disproportionately high number of women who are killed and victimized by wars, the comparatively heavier burden of poverty on women, and the continuing disparity between men and women in terms of the quality of available employment and wages received.
But are we, kink folks, any different than those so-called-vanilla creatures living in those real-worlds?
Do we not see similar amount of objectification , patriarchy in this community as well?
Even as a dominant we fall prey to the idea that being dominant is about being a man. being submissive is about being a woman. total bullshit and full of crap. who is going to tell those idiotic people that a woman has a choice. that she can be what she wants to be. she can love how she wants. that there needs not be a standard that she needs to adhere to which is set by men.
it saddens me more to see the people around me, who tell them selves that they are in kink, and understandably more tolerant to sexuality and morality, are no different because they have not learnt what patriarchy means.
a very dear friend who calls himself a sexual rights activist, is an ardent follower of patriarchy in his own relationships. do we call him hypocrite? no, probably someone who has far lesser knowledge of the subject.
even to this day, in our kink community as well, we have been selling ideas/things on shoulder of a seemingly sexy and interesting females. like, a munch gets attended with more enthusiasm if there are more females attendees in it. like, as a female moderator, a strict word to a misbehavior of a male member is taken as a personal attack by him. In his views, become a dominant bitchy person when i do that, while the same thing said in same language by a male moderator is taken much less personally.
these are the small things, in compare to whats been happening in world otherwise.
its high time we support the cause.
may be the first thing would be to atleast listen to this video by Eve Ensler.
Eve Ensler, creator of the Vagina Monologues, declares that there is a girl cell in us all. A cell that we have all been taught to suppress. She tells heartfelt stories of girls around the world who have overcome shocking adversity and violence to reveal the astonishing strength of being a girl.
please listen. please consider.
learn to be a girl. and learn not to be ashamed of it.
learn to say no. learn to stand up.
say it with me, say it with Eve, say it proudly…. ” I am a girl.. and I am an emotional creature!”
Happy Woman’s Day to you all!